People who'd rather self-sabotage than not do anything at all

Some people would rather see the world burn than not have any impact at all. This is completely natural. After all, what could be more horrifying than knowing that you never affected anything and died without making any kind of difference? At least destruction has an effect. It makes some sort of difference. It's not nothing, even if it's just an illusion you perceive.

So, anyway, what do I think about those people?

I pity them.

And I freaking hate pity.

I know this one person who, whenever something good happens to them, they manage to screw it up. For example, a person they miss makes contact after years of distance. What do they do? They start giving the person unsolicited advice. Or telling the person how they want their relationship to be. Or demanding that they sort out some decade-old disagreement.

My favorite way to deal with such people is to not acknowledge their destruction attempt at all. This way, they won't get the satisfaction of having affected anything, even in a negative way. I like to think that this bugs them to no end.

Which, hopefully, will discourage them from trying such crap in the future - thus saving me from feeling that horrible pity again.

RK out (to cleanse my mind with more joyous, Christmas-related things).