From what I've learned about men, women, attraction, and relationships, the biggest lesson has been that men and women not only are different but also are supposed to be different. This is something worth emphasizing in the modern world where the genders are encouraged to become more like their opposite counterparts: that men become softer and women become harder. This has also been a transformative journey for myself, having forcibly demanded an unnaturally strong masculinity from my own character in the past.
One thing I've learned recently about femininity is that women are allowed to be light and airy entities that emit joy and life around them. Stress does not suit women. It makes them hard and cold.
Therefore, the easier-said-than-done hack for becoming significantly more feminine as a woman is to release all stress and let your male partner handle it.
I know it sounds sexist, and it definitely is, as long as sexist means traditionally gender-related. I don't mean that women are unable to handle stress, or that they're always worse at handling stress.
But on average, women's spirits age and wither with stress, while men thrive on stress.
In other words... I really need a bathtub.
RK
P.S. If a woman cannot release her stress because she doesn't have a male partner, perhaps she could try releasing the stress anyway. The hardness that comes with stress could be the exact reason she hasn't found a counterpart yet, and replacing it with light, airy, and feminine energy could make her twice as attractive to a man who would love to carry all the stress in the world for her.
